Work/Life Out of Balance
Work/Life Out of Balance
Work/Life Out of Balance
In the first blog this month, Centre practitioner and RTT trainer Marcus Matthews looks at our work/life out of balance.
With many people working from home and with easy access to information and technology, the lines between work and play have become blurred right?
What is the actual cost to both you and your employer are paying?
There are numerous studies on the Internet that show that having a healthy work life balance promotes a reduction in stress levels, prevents burn out, improves motivation and productivity, and creates more harmonious spaces and environments, both in the home and at work.
If this is the case then why is it that culturally many businesses expect employees “to go the extra mile”?
Have you ever felt the pressure to do overtime or work more to ensure “the client gets the best experience”?
When I look back at my own journey I gave so much of myself to prove to others my worth and where did that get me – burnt out and suicidal.
I recognise now that I was a slave to my own programming.
When you’re stressed, your cortisol levels shoot up thereby crippling your logical thought processes.
Your conscious/logical mind, which deals with social interaction and problem solving, basically gets switched off as you go into fight or flight mode. You start reacting from a place of emotion.
You can become irrational and that builds fear and there is a pivot point where you turn from creative and idea focused to just doing, and at this point it is much easier to be manipulated to serve.
Now more than ever people are in fear, fear of losing their jobs, homes, family and this pressure isn’t just felt at the bottom, this culture goes all the way to the top.
Your boss is probably really nice but has bought into a culture of slavery and because it’s familiar we are not even aware how we have changed.
You see from my experience working with clients there is a pivot point somewhere in the middle of most organisations, in between middle management and the senior management team in most organisations.
Let’s call it the Proving of Power Principle.
Most managers and leaders don’t even realise they have succumb to this programming, as it has been engrained in our culture for hundreds of years.
But what is actually happening under the surface?
Why do we act and feel the way we do?
The Mind has three key roles:
The first is survival
The second connection
The third familiarity
Most people work to get money to pay bills and this is link to our survival and safety needs
What we want is to transcend those needs to create meaningful connections, to fit in. In the image above Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs shows a sweet spot in the middle, we either transcend that point or stay below it – staying in the middle is where 95% of people aim to be – just above the safety zone.
Those who have ambition want to transcend, but there is a price to pay to that transcendence.
1. Sacrifice others
2. Sacrifice yourself and awaken
Most choose the former because the second one takes way more honesty, vulnerability and courage and requires you to go inside to fight your inner demons, but that is where true transcendence happens. Option one just requires you to wear a mask and pretend more and that is why most corporate managers and leader burn out or use coping mechanisms, the only difference between those above and below the sweet spot is money, they can just afford a bigger bucket to hide in.
Our core needs are met based on the following, but this can be applied to any relationship, where we need to feel safe, when any part fails, our survival mechanisms kick in.
But we all have different needs, values and expectations of others because we are all programmed differently, but society tells us how we should be, look, act and our instinct to survive often will go against what our core values are. We are told to use logic but that is not where our power lies.
We believe to transcend and make connections we must take logical steps.
We are born, go to school, get good grades, get a job, get a pension and die – some life.
We wish for more, but aren’t willing to take the steps to free ourselves – Why?
Because we know no different.
Actually it’s not the things we seek, the promotions, the pay rises. It’s the sense of purpose and belonging that create emotions. These are created in the subconscious and unconscious mind.
This is our true programming.
When your own conscious thoughts and subconscious emotions become conflicted then we start to go into survival mode because in the in the battle between the subconscious and conscious, the subconscious or emotional mind wins every time.
Our subconscious and unconscious holds all the answers to why we feel the way we do, those feelings of stress, anxiety, not fitting in feeling good enough or even that you feel you have no purpose at work are all hidden from you.
But we look outwardly to blame each other. All that is happening is your programming is incompatible and you don’t even know it.
Give this test a go with colleagues at work, it may give you some clues
But personality is just a construct and until we align to who we are or who we want to be, we will never really transcend and make meaningful impact in the world.
According to the reports from the Mental Health at Work Survey 2018, work and work-related factors were seen as the major cause of mental health issues in 61 percent of employees. Most of these mental health issues are a result of stress from the workplace. These mental health issues hamper the productivity of employees. This is a lie you are responsible for the way you feel no one else, and that is a tough pill to swallow. The good thing is that means you also have the power to change it, you just need to know how.
You can’t control your environment externally, but you can internally, and then you can control how you respond.
That is how my clients break free and transcend.
You are so much more than your job, you have purpose and you deserve to live a happy life and that is my purpose, to help you achieve that.
Marcus Matthews – Rapid Transformational Therapist
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