Did you know?

Saint Valentine was supposedly a Roman priest who performed secret weddings against the wishes of the authorities in the third century.

Imprisoned in the home of a noble, he healed his captor's blind daughter, causing the whole household to convert to Christianity and sealing his fate.

In another legend, Saint Valentine signed a letter “from your Valentine” to his jailer’s daughter, whom he had befriended and healed from blindness. The legend states that he defied the emperor’s orders and secretly married couples to spare the husbands from war.

The interest and ironic twist in this story is how one person followed his purpose against the wishes of those who presumed they had power over him and how by following his purpose and passion he ended up meeting his maker.

The simple truth is that we all wish we could love with open hearts like we did when we were born.

All children come into the world expecting love, but we quickly learn from our environments that love must be traded, bought, sought and may even cause us disconnection, shame and guilt.

But maybe what the story is telling us, is that the story is a metaphor for our own truth.

Maybe he sought to empower love against the odds, to bring people together through love, despite the rules.

Maybe the blind daughter was not blind in sight, but blind in heart and soul, playing a part for her family, to fit in. To conform to what society says a women should be.

Maybe seeing this love the family saw truth, that love does conquer all.

Maybe the marrying of love is not about the husbands going off to actual war, but love stops the internal battle of I am not good enough, lovable enough.

That’s what the legend seems to infer to me and I’ll explain why.

When I broke in 2018 and started my journey of transformation, I experienced something that was pure love. A state of pure love, connection, with all living things. It was a state of everything that had gone, was present and was to be – a pure love – light – warmth.

It was in that moment I found my purpose.

What I found, and what many clients now experience is love.

To truly love and be loved, you need to love yourself first.

We do not seek another half, but another whole.

A partner, a spirit a soul mate.

On this valentines day if you are lonely, if you seek the comfort of another, then close your eyes, breath and just fall in love with you.

Self-love is the ultimate aphrodisiac.

Self-love means having a high regard for your own well-being and happiness. Self-love means taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others.

This is not selfish it is your right.

Loving yourself truly comes with facing what you may hate most about yourself. Maybe it is a body-part or multiple body-parts, or the way you treated someone, or yourself, embracing the guilt or shame about a situation. Then forgiving yourself and embracing the whole you, not just the parts you wish others to see.

The thing is, until you can really shine a light on your insecurities, you will never be truly accepting of yourself, so how can you expect other to be excepting of you?


“You are not a drop in the ocean, you are an ocean in a drop.” — RUMI

When was the last time you celebrated you?

How did you celebrate you today?

How can you celebrate you today?

Why not begin now?

Why not take some time to listen to this recording on YouTube to understand why you are enough just as you are and if you are ready to find out how to love yourself again, get in touch.

https://youtu.be/yeqs1T1DnVE

Marcus Matthews – Transformation Coach

https://centreforintegralhealth.com/about-us/our-practitioners/marcus-matthews/